Themes in songs on unrequited love in Hindi films
by Ratnendra Pandey
Love has been a common theme in literary work since the time unknown and across cultures. Poets and writers have vividly captured the thoughts of people in love. For the last 70-80 years, Bollywood (or Hindi Film Industry) has been a very powerful medium of literary expression. Some of the best songs of our times have been written for Hindi films. It may be safe to assume that the songs that are really good and even if not specifically for Hindi films end up in Hindi films. In this essay, I have compiled the some common themes that appear in Hindi songs on unrequited love.
1. I shall leave your town.
This is very common theme in love literature. As a child I was always intrigued by the song, “Teri duniya se hoke majboor chala” from 1970 film Pavitra Papi (The Holy Sinner). Why would someone want to go away to a far off land? The song was a great hit in its time and is played over and over even today. The 1976 song from film Hawas “Teri Galiyon me na rakhenge kadam, aaj ke baad” shot up in popularity charts. The best song in my opinion in this category came from Pakistani Movie “Shama aur Parwana” in 1970 . The song is like this, “Main tera shehar chor jaunga” . Literally meaning, “I shall leave your town’. About a decade and half later, Hindi film Nazarana (1987) had a song with somewhat similar opening lines ending with “main tera shehar chor jaunga“.
The 1967 song from film Ram aur Shyam “Aaj ki raat mere dil ki salami le le, kal teri bazm se dewaana chala jayega” and the 1969 song from Pakistani film Dag “Teri mehfil se yeh dewaana chala jayega” do a good job in expressing this theme.
These songs express the intense unhappiness in love, the resolve of the unloved person to never comeback or to bother the beloved. And, to make sure if ever the memories of the beloved arise then he would just keep quite. Often, there is a promise to not talk about the beloved and to protect her from getting bad name in society.
2. I shall forever wait for you.
I believe this theme is exact opposite of “I shall leave your town”. Here the unloved does not leave the place. Instead promises to keep waiting for the beloved till eternity. Richard Marx has captured this thought very well in the song, “Wherever you go, Whatever you do, I will be right here waiting for you.” The 1967 Hindi Film Bahu Begum had song, “Hum intezaar karenge tera qayamat tak“. Literally meaning, “I shall wait for you till the end of this world”.
Many songs have this idea expressed in different form such as, “You may return anytime”, You shall return one day, “Door to my home shall always be open for you”. In all these works, the character offers the option to the beloved to return to him should things do not work out. Some good examples are song in Purab aur Paschim “koi jab tumhara hridya tor de” . The 1977 song “Chand mera dil, chandani ho tum” from film “Hum Kisi Se Kam Nahin” says the same thing. Underlying this is the idea that beloved is temporarily distracted and when she or he realizes the true love is missing, she or he would want to return. Unloved is usually very confident in such songs that he is offering the most genuine love that the beloved will not find anywhere else.
3. I shall never forget you.
This is obvious. But, unloved ones seem to find solace in telling that he or she would never forget the beloved. It is so obvious. Still, it has been theme of many songs. Some songs have dealt this with a little more sophistication. The 1995 Imtehan song “Ek yaad ke sahare zindagi guzar denge, ja bewafa tujhe hum dil se utar denge” [Translated – I shall stay alive with the help of your memories. But, Oh unfaithful ! I shall take you out of my mind.] is quite interesting. The irony is that unloved needs the memories to live, yet in the next sentence he resolves to forget the beloved so that he can live. There cannot be any greater contradiction. Memories of beloved can be fatal or be lifesaver.
In the 1962 film Hariyali or Rasta , one of the song metaphorically compares the memories of the beloved with the identity. The song “Teri yaad dil se bhoolane chala hoon, ke khud apni hasti mitane chala hoon“. [Translated – I wish to forget you, even if it makes me a person with no identity.]
In a song in 1979 Pakistani film the unloved equates the memories of the beloved the life. The memories of beloved cannot be done apart from the life of unloved one. So the song “main jis din bhoola doon tera pyar dil se, woh din akhiri ho meri zindagi ka” sung by Mehnaz.
4. You shall never forget me.
Some unloved ones are overconfident that the beloved shall never forget them. This theme has shown up again and again in Bollywood songs. The 1970 movie PAGLA KAHI KA had a rather long song sequence, ” Tum Mujhe Yun Bhula Na Paoge“. Pakistan’s legendary singer Mehdi Hasan sang ” mujhe tum nazar se giraa to rahe ho, mujhe tum kabhii bhii bhulaa naa sakoge” for 1952 Pakistani movie Doraha. This song goes into vivid details about how the memories of the unloved one would haunt the beloved for long.
Mehdi Hasan has another beautiful song to his credit dealing with same theme from a 1969 Pakistani Film Zindagi Kinti Haseen Hai. “Jab Koi Pyar Se, Tum ko aik shakhs yaad aayega“. The treatment of the concept in this song is very similar to the one in song “mujhe tum nazar se” reminding the beloved that she will not be able to forget.
Back in India, in Film Ji Chahta Hai 1964, the song “Ham chorh chale hain mehfil ko” written by Hasarat Jaipuri and sung by Mukesh, advises beloved not to weep when memories of the unloved come to mind.
5. You shall appreciate me when I am gone.
Many unloved ones believe that beloved would come to know of theirs true worth one day. The American song ‘Why don’t you tell me so?’ by Flatt and Scruggs nicely captures this idea in the stanza:
“Now there’ll come a time little darling
When you will want me you know
But darling, it will then be too late
For you to tell me so”
The song “Dil Aaj Shayar Hai” from 1971 film ” Gambler” has the verse “Hum jab n hoonge to ro ro ke duniya doondhegi mere nishan“. The song “Atharah baras ki tu hone ko aie re” from 1979 film has a verses with similar thought. In all the cases the message to the beloved is that the no else would take better care of her.
6. End of Relation with either good wishes or curses.
Writers face a difficult choice about how to end a bad relation. In most songs, the unloved one accepts the end of relation with grace and offer best wishes and good life ahead to the beloved. This theme is usually hidden in a stanza in main song. In 1992 film Deewana, the stanza “jaan-e-wafa tujhko kya dein? dil kaha raha hai dua deen” of the song “Tere dard se dil abad raha” the unloved is willing to ignore the pain and offer good wishes. In the 1970 song from Khilona “Khush rahe tu sada” good wishes are offered through out. Occasionally, the unloved one ends relation with curses and swears like in song from 1966 film Aaye Din bahar Ke “Mere dushman tu meri dosti ko tarse“, or the song from 1973 film Anamika, “meri bheegi bheegi si palkon pe reh gaye jaise mere sapne bikhar ke” . Both songs have strong words and powerful poetry. Critics argue that both songs are unduly harsh on women. As it turns out in both movies, the unfaithfulness is in part a due to some misunderstanding and part due to complex reasons not all within control of the women.
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Links to video of songs referred in this essay
- Teri duniya se hoke majboor chala
- Teri Galiyon me na rakhenge kadam, aaj ke baad
- Main tera shehar chor jaunga (Shama aur Parwana – 1970)
- main tera shehar chor jaunga (Nazarana – 1987)
- Aaj ki raat mere dil ki salami le le, kal teri bazm se dewaana chala jayega
- Teri mehfil se yeh dewaan chala jayega
- Wherever you go, Whatever you do, I will be right here waiting for you. by Richard Marx
- Hum intezaar karenge tera qayamat tak
- koi jab tumhara hridya tor de
- Chand mera dil, chandani ho tum
- Ek yaad ke sahare zindagi guzar denge, ja bewafa tujhe hum dil se utar denge
- Teri yaad dil se bhoolane chala hoon, ke khud apni hasti mitane chala hoon
- main jis din bhoola doon tera pyar dil se, woh din akhiri ho meri zindagi ka
- Tum Mujhe Yun Bhula Na Paoge
- mujhe tum nazar se giraa to rahe ho, mujhe tum kabhii bhii bhulaa naa sakoge
- Jab Koi Pyar Se, Tum ko aik shakhs yaad aayega
- Ham chorh chale hain mehfil ko
- Why don’t you tell me so? By Flatt and Scruggs.
- Hum jab n hoonge to ro ro ke duniya doondhegi mere nishan
- athraah baras ki tu hone ko aie re
- Tere dard se dil abad raha
- Khush rahe tu sada
- Mere dushman tu meri dosti ko tarse
- meri bheegi bheegi si palkon pe reh gaye jaise mere sapne bikhar ke
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